Could You Be in a Polyamorous Relationship?
While many turn away from the notion of “sharing” their partner, others embrace love with open arms.
Polyamory has gotten a bad reputation– namely through popular television series that depict polyamorous couples as promiscuous, selfish sex addicts that are afraid of commitment. We’re here to break that stereotype.
Here’s the question on everyone’s minds: is maintaining a polyamorous relationship possible? And we say yes.
It starts with open communication. When you decide to pursue another partner, either casually or seriously, make a point to tell your primary partner (or partners). You would want them to do the same when they decide to see someone else. Remember that jealousy is a natural emotion. Your primary partner(s) may want to start a relationship with someone you’re seeing– and you may want to see someone your partner is seeing. Jealousy does crop up, but it’s normal.
Acknowledging jealousy as a human emotion makes open communication easier as well. Take the time. Making every involved partner happy will take a lot of time and commitment. Seriously, it’s a lot of work. Each person may want something different. In turn, juggling your time across several partners, some of which may be jealous of one another, can take lots of effort. Triads are just as much work as polyamorous couples that consist of 7 or 8 partners.
Most importantly, take the time to get tested; having multiple partners who also have partners can heighten your risk for contracting STIs. Ultimately, polyamory is possible– if you’re seriously willing to work toward it. It’s just like any monogamous relationship. It takes open communication, hard work, and commitment.
Girl Talk Time: What do you think? Does a polyamorous relationship seem possible in your life? Why or why not?