(MUST READ) What Every Female In Her 20’s Should Know
Many women look back on their 20s and remember it as a time of confusion, broken hearts, amazing revelations, and independence. Whether you’re in the midst of your 20s or past them, here’s a list of the main points every quarter-century girl ought to know, and for women thirty and beyond, it’s something to reflect on. What else would you add to the list? Leave a comment and let us know. – Cass Daubenspeck
1. Put Your Needs First
While your 20s are a great time to try new things and have fun, it’s also the time for you to define what you want. What are your dreams, personally and professionally? Put your needs first. Start acting on them.
2. Respect Your Friendships
I can’t stress this enough. Do whatever you can to surround yourself with strong, amazing women you want to call “friend” – women who can be there when you least expect you’ll need them. While romantic relationships are important in this decade of realizations and change, friendships are the most important relationships you can have. If you neglect them, it will be harder to build bonds later on, when responsibilities like family, children, and marriages sidle their way in.
3. Learn to Walk Away
When a guy tells you he’s going to call and doesn’t, a friend fills your life with heavy negativity, or a boss is clearly mistreating you, learn to walk away. Explain why you are making the change, and then don’t look back. The people you walk away from will respect you for it, and the message you send is that this is your life, and you mean business.
4. Failure is an option
Everyone fails. The worst thing you can do is think that failing means you are a failure. Absolutely wrong. The smartest, brightest, most successful people are the ones who have failed, usually many, many times, before they became successful. The key is to fail as much as you can, as long as you don’t give up. (Just look at Oprah.)
5. Conquer Fear
Is your dream to start a fashion blog? Open a store? Live in South America? Do it now when you have little to lose. Don’t let fear be the reason you don’t act on a dream.
6. Be Confident. It’s sexy.
Everyone loves confidence. It’s sexy. Even if you don’t have it down pat, fake it. You’ll own it soon.
7. Embrace Alone-ness
Waiting for your soulmate can seem at times like you’re waiting for pigs to fly, but clinging to any guy who passes through will make the wait even longer. Learn to exercise self-confidence, and recognize when it’s better to be alone. One day you’ll miss when it was just you.
8. Let Go of Past Hurts
Regret happens. But the past can only dictate if you let it. Forget the past and keep your head and heart in the right direction: forward.
9. Take Control of Your Money
The first big step you can take in this area is learning how to do your taxes, and getting them right. After that, start thinking about your finances. How much do you make? Is it what you want to be making? Can you take care of yourself and save money for the future? Most women start thinking about their finances at this age and keep a close eye on where their money is going. Your 20s are a time to start planning for the unforeseen future, with or without a man to help you.
10. Don’t be afraid of serious relationships
Men are worse at this than women. But some of us decide to focus so much on ourselves and our careers that we opt out of potentially great relationships. It’s just “too much work” at a time when we feel we should be focused on more important things. Be conscious of this. Engaging only in short-term flings means you won’t have any mistakes to learn from later on when you meet a great man. Get involved with guys when it comes naturally, and work out the kinks of invested romance while you’re growing as a person. In your 20s, there’s no better time to learn.